Thursday, November 20, 2014

Do we "own" our illnesses? Maybe it's time we shouldn't

When talking to a friend about my battle with stomach issues and thyroid disease, I didn't realize that I used the word, "my" when telling her about them. Calling them, "my ulcer," "my thyroid problem." She stopped me and said, "did you hear what you said? You owned them, but you don't have to."

That made me think about a book my chiropractor gave me called "Switch On Your Brain" by Dr. Caroline Leaf. I am looking forward to reading it, but I just found this on her website. I am guilty of having toxic thoughts. How freeing to know that I don't have to. But check this out. . . .

Toxic Thoughts

75% to 95% of the illnesses that plague us today are a direct result of our thought life. What we think about affects us physically and emotionally. It's an epidemic of toxic emotions.

The average person has over 30,000 thoughts a day. Through an uncontrolled thought life, we create the conditions for illness; we make ourselves sick! Research shows that fear, all on its own, triggers more than 1,400 known physical and chemical responses and activates more than 30 different hormones. There are INTELLECTUAL and MEDICAL reasons to FORGIVE! Toxic waste generated by toxic thoughts causes the following illnesses: diabetes, cancer, asthma, skin problems and allergies to name just a few. Consciously control your thought life and start to detox your brain!

Medical research increasingly points to the fact that thinking and consciously controlling your thought life is one of the best ways, if not the best way of detoxing your brain. It allows you to get rid of those toxic thoughts and emotions that can consume and control your mind. Change in your thinking is essential to detox the brain. Consciously controlling your thought life means not letting thoughts rampage through your mind. It means learning to engage interactively with every single thought that you have, and to analyze it before you decide either to accept or reject it.

How do you go about doing that? By "looking" at your mental processes. That may sound like a strange, if not impossible thing to do. After all, it's not as if you can just crack open your skull like an egg and have a look at what is going on inside your brain.

It is possible, however, to look at your mental processes.

In fact, it is not just possible, it is essential.

For example consider the following:
How many "could-have", "would-have", "should-have" statements have you made today?
How many "if onlys" were part of your inner vocabulary today?
How many times have you replayed in your head a conversation or situation that pained you, or one that hasn't even occurred yet?
How many scenarios have you created of the unpredictable future?
How much is speculation taking out of your day?
How passive is your mind?
How honest are you with yourself?
Are you at cross-purposes with yourself - going through the motions, but not really committed to the goal, saying one thing but meaning another?
How distorted is your thinking? Are you forming a personal identity around for example, a disease? Do you speak about "my arthritis", "my multiple sclerosis", "my heart problem"?
Do you ever make comments like "nothing ever goes right for me"; "everything I touch fails"; "I always mess up"?

If you answered yes even to just one of these, your thought life needs detoxing right now.

Saturday, August 24, 2013

I Will Always Miss My Arm

Recently, a dear friend lost her son. Although he battled depression, it was assumed that his death might have been a suicide but it wasn't. Nonetheless, his death has left an enormous hole in her, her family and friends.

She poured her heart of her son's loss on her Facebook this week. It touched me so much, I asked if I could post it here on my blog. For me, I find it difficult to inquire how someone is doing after such a devastation. Her post helped me not only to understand what she is going through, but how I might be able to be there for her and for others.  Perhaps her post will help you think about how to approach someone when they've lost a loved one, especially a child.

From my friend:

"I have been asked how I am doing, so many times I needed to really access things. What is it like? Well, I think it’s like having my left arm cut off. I will NEVER get over it. What about time healing all wounds? Yes, I have experienced that in other losses, but this one is crippling me. I rather liked that arm and miss it every single day and every time I go to use it, and had future plans for it. But don’t worry…I will learn to adapt and survive. That’s something I am stellar in. But I will be doing it all… missing my darn arm! 

So I find that I’m suddenly caught in a vortex of very conflicting thoughts: 

Awareness every waking second I will never talk to my second son, or touch him, or kiss the top of his thick beautiful, usually unruly, head of hair. Then in response for him to never again to reach up & hug me goodnight, and say, “I love ya mom!” To never pray with him again, or spend hours discussing all the deep amazing truths he seemed to understand so simply in the Word; or quote so effortlessly to align & enhance our prayers & sorrows in so perfectly. I mean he knew Job, and Ecclesiastes and how Jesus was the upside of all our whoas.

What I grieve for is the hole he left in this world where he should have gotten that amazing break in a lab somewhere discovering some scientific or medical miracle about the brain he dreamed of that was waiting to spill out of his keen mind, maybe with a team of scientists behind him, in which he would have to use all these years of being humbled to balance the elation of success.. We talked about God using his low times to balance the high times, to apply all the lessons learned from his sufferings into helping those with similar vexations. He suffered more than anyone I know. 

He had such a strong hope to father his own children kindly, love a wife honestly, and support them all unselfishly. 

The lost potential seems a waste to me as a mom. I experienced his immense intellect combined with his love for God’s Word. That to me, is the biggest loss to us all. The misuse of what could have been. 

So then, God intervened, as only HE can. Now Bryan is whole, complete in Christ, given a crown of glory that will never fade away. He sees Jesus and he is LIKE Jesus in a way I cannot comprehend from my earthly vantage point. He has been gathered unto the Chief Shepherd. Held next to his Shepherd’s bosom, to be cared for and held as much as they want. No shame any longer; out of the prison of his body, freely worshipping.

So, here we are left to feel truly happy for Bryan, but we are left behind and so sad for ourselves. Talk about ultimate selfless love as his mom? I STILL want what’s best for him, so I choose to let him go by claiming it is okay with my soul, because I trust my Chief Shepherd, Jesus, too.


Sunday, October 28, 2012

Lo Takes On a New Business Adventure!

My 50's are definitely an exciting time for me!

I am now a represenative for one of the most innovative handbag companies around. . .


Visit my Miche website Spin That 45
And my Miche Facebook Page

Thursday, July 19, 2012

Take time to rest. . .

With suffering from an ulcer for the last 4 years, it seems all I've done is "rest." Never "enjoying" it. Because of my illness, the loss of interest in my home followed, which I loved working on and alot of times, loss of time with my family.

Now. . . finally taking the right medication, I am on my way to being ulcer free and finally feeling whole again. As a result, I have that wonderful urge to make my home feel warm and inviting. As well as spending more time with my family.

Take time out to rest and heal if your body is telling you to do so.

Life can be so busy. . .

Don't forget to take time to "enjoy" the precious moments with those you love. And if you've been too busy to do what you love. . .find the time. And even include your loved ones. I couldn't have created this "space" without them. It was fun! We laughed alot!

I'm looking forward to more times like this!

Saturday, December 31, 2011

Beauty For Ashes & Healthy Changes

Facebook has implemented the new Timeline. I have to admit, I was not too excited about the change. Just as I get used to the "new way" of doing things, it all has to change. But I have forged ahead, trying to make the best of it. I truly did NOT like the idea of going back and looking at what I've posted in years past. Who wants to look at all the yucky status updates we've posted???

And for Facebook themselves, there's alot of negatives attached to them. But I have to admit, I think the Timeline theme was a good move. For me, at least.

You see, this was not the best year for me in respect to health and some personal challenges. And as much as I don't care to go back and look at 2011, I needed to go back. And you know what?? I saw so many WONDERFUL blessings!!! Even the ashes were beautiful!!

"Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides. You know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colors. So don't try to get out of anything prematurely. Let it do its work so you become mature and well-developed, not deficient in any way." James 1:2-4 [The Message]

So what for 2012 & beyond? Healthy changes!! I'm not waiting until the new year to begin. Drinking mushroom coffee (Ganoderma), juicing, eating dark green leafy vegetables and making it a point to walk more. Objectives? To be ulcer free, thinner, but mostly... healthy & content.
Happy New Year!!

Thursday, September 15, 2011

Age Is Just a Number. It's What's Inside That Counts!

I turned 50 this summer! I can’t believe I am 50 years old!!
I was just a little girl not too long ago! I was just 18 a few years ago!

Looking for something cute online to express how I felt about entering this new decade and saying goodbye to the last one, I found a quote and decided to make it part of my profile pic.

Age Is Just a Number

I am thankful that I am in good health. Sure, I could stand to lose a few pounds, but aside from my replacing my nearsightedness for farsight and a healing ulcer, I want to keep it that way.
So I am pumping the probiotics and going gluten free!!

And like all the Hispanic women before me, I will always stay a brunette ; )

Celebrating my big day by doing a little karaoke.
My friend in the background is a CRACK UP!!

Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Blogging tips for the new and frequent blogger

So I've been working on my other blog Spin That 45 and so far, it has been an amazing ride!!

I LOVE blogging, there is no doubt about that!! But since I've been reviewing new music and talking about the latest on who to listen to and what, I've been feeling this need to want MORE!!

Give me MORE. . . MORE READERS!!!

So. . . how to go about that!?

Isn't it cool how when you think about something that you want, somehow, THINGS start to happen in a way that you least expect it?

Take for example, spending a morning with Life Coaches' Laurie Hardie & Suzette Parker, who host a radio program called "Coffee with The Coaches." They had invited me to sit in with them at a local coffee house where I met some lovely ladies, including one Marlee Huber.

Through our conversations which centered around the "treasure maps" the ladies brought, the "HOW TO" of how to get there came up. And of course, BLOGGING was high on the list.

Marlee mentioned her newly created blog and her desire to make it the best. So she researched how to get the most from blogging, including achieving the most hits. What came from that is her April 7, 2011 blog entitled "12 Tips on Reaching 500 Hits," which you can read from her site: "Your Flourishing Life." She said that writing that blog really affirmed that the tips she wrote about worked!!

Well, I was so excited by what she said that I couldn't wait to look it up!!

I did as soon as I got in my car!! And I SO want to share them you!! Because following these tips really did work on SPIN THAT 45!!!

You can definitely visit Marlee's site to read her tips, but I am just too excited and HAD to post them below!!

Here's what she says to those of us who "wants 500 hits on their blog in a couple months." In my case, I had 300 hits in less than 2 weeks!!!

1. Pick a topic with universal appeal. Every organism is born to flourish. Find a topic that will attract a variety of readers.

2. Pick a topic that fascinates you. Ask yourself, “Can I be excited about this topic for the duration?” If you’re not enthusiastic, don’t expect readers to return.

3. Pick a topic that you know something about. I didn’t start out to study flourishing, but to understand behavior styles. Several years later after thousands of hours of research, I realized I had discovered the secret formula for flourishing in life.

4. Pick a topic that is transformational. Everyone wants to be re-invented. What I learned on flourishing has revolutionized my life. What has transformed your life? How can you guide your reader into being his personal best?

5. Practice compelling language. Engage the emotions as you write; hone your storytelling ability; make it easy to read and beneficial; avoid the passive voice; write for 8th graders. People don’t have a lot of time; make it worth their time.

6. Develop a following on social media. Having friends in place means a ready-made audience of those who know, like and trust you. Do friends and followers already find you uplifting? Encouraging?

7. Find a mentor. Especialy one who can help you if you aren't computer savvy and has LOTS of patience!! If you know a patience teen, that would be great!! I want to learn how to comment and like on Tumblr and am having the most difficulty trying to comprehend that site, but I know I will cuz I asked a friend of my son's to help me! ; )

8. Write on trending topics. Twitter posts hot topics throughout the day. On days when I write on trending topics the number of hits increases dramatically. Following the Christchurch earthquake, I wrote on how to re-open supply lines and get Christchurch flourishing again. Stats soared.

9. Write 2-3 times per week. Posting regularly demonstrates commitment and search engines like that.

10. Write 250-350 words. This is a good readable length attractive to Google and friends.

11. Tag each article with 5-10 subject headings. For example, Christchurch/New Zealand/Earthquake/Compassion/Supply lines.

12. Auto-publish on Facebook and Twitter. Tweet a catchy title; add a photo along with a compelling lead in for Facebook. Make it easy for your friends and followers to read your musings.
Published by Marlee Huber for Your Flourishing Life

Let me just say that after you've read these, don't expect these results right away. If you are blogging and you love your topics??? Then keep doing what you're doing, because the opportunity will present itself when the time is right.

In my case, I was doing what I do and then recently, I found that someone I know, Snuffy Walden was going to be on The Ellen Show with with a super talented young woman by the name Sara Niemietz. I watched it and was so amazed by her talent, I wanted to blog about her. THAT'S Tip #2!! : ) In less than 48 hours after posting it, I had gotten 100 hits.

Then that week, American Idol's Casey Abrams ALSO made an appearance on The Ellen Show. And being a huge fan of Casey, OF COURSE I had to blog about him. . . BAM. . . another 100 hits!!

I didn't blog about them to increase my hits. I blogged about them, because these two people as tip #2 said, fascinated me!

And as I continue to blog new music and artists, I will keep these tips at hand so I can review them from time to time.

Thank you Marlee for making mention of this valuable article and passing on the wisdom!!